January 4, 2010
I must have been 17 or 18 the first time I’d even heard the term. Carl, a college friend of my brother, was talking about rimming. Apparently, it was all the rage on their campus. Rimming, for those of you who don’t know is a form of oral sex whereby the anus/perineum of one partner is serviced by the other’s mouth. At that stage of my life I was mortified by the concept. This seemed an unacceptable practice to me.
My friend Michael was the second person I can remember discussing rimming. It might be more accurate to say Michael was extolling the virtues of the act. According to Michael it was the pinnacle of oral sexual pleasure. The interesting thing though was that Michael claimed it was something he would only allow his “side thing” to do to him—He’d never let a woman he really cared about “lick the bowl”.
This idea seems to persist, as it is a common theme amongst men in my social circle. Rimming, if practiced at all is done in specific circumstances. Interestingly, though it was something my friends wouldn’t allow their “main squeeze” to do to them, and those who were “Rimmers” would only do it to their main squeeze. As Michael put it
“My tongue isn’t going to lick up any old girl’s ass”.
Make of that what you will.
Personally, I believe that as long as both partners are consenting, I don’t see any sexual behaviour as dirty or wrong. It may not be my cup of tea, but not everyone is drinking with me.
So what about you, dear friends? How do you feel about playing above (below?) the rim?