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The Anal Truth
Posted by: Elizabeth Rose
Tags:
anal, ass, casual sex, dating, relationships, sex, sex toys, VSD
Posted date:
January 5, 2010 |
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January 5, 2010
“…the butthole can be the great equalizer— everyone has one. It is the most democratic of our orifices. We can all experience what it feels like to be pitcher or catcher on the butthole diamond. And no one can accuse you of anus envy.” – Tristan Taormino, of puckerup.com
I have alluded to the request for anal sex coming up about three weeks after any declaration of love or commitment. It also happens in the casual realm where I choose to explore. Some lasses enjoy it up the bum, some don’t. But it seems that at some point all men wish to explore their lady’s back passage.
Why?
Now – the standard answers are that it’s tighter, feels different or better, and it’s a bit naughty!
Actually the last man who enticed me into a lengthy phase of monogamy used to refer to the act as doing it “unconventionally”. I’ll be honest I found it quite a charming way of requesting it and gave this man my anal virginity as his birthday present. Admittedly I have since offered up my anal ‘virginity’ on a number of occasions. I have found that an anal-explorer is more likely to go slowly and gently if he believes he is ‘discovering’ virgin territory. I do hope none of my erstwhile suitors are reading this, as I expect they may be a little disappointed considering how pleased they were with themselves at the time, and the expense they went to with dinners, gifts, weekends away, etc. in order to pop my bum-cherry.
Nevertheless, I gave into their requests on my own terms and for my own reasons. I do not believe any of the nonsense about it being more intimate, or a better sensation for guys (unless they have a VSD … but then what else would you do with it?). Instead, I believe the male obsession with anal is a power trip. It is as simple as the amusement of looking down and seeing his cock in a place it shouldn’t be. It’s not some romantic bullshit of a stronger connection, it isn’t that erotic. (Seriously, his cock now has poo on it – what is sexy about that?) It is about power, it’s about breaking a taboo and taking something more from the lady in his bed.
Excuse my feminist rant for a second… but we have finally reclaimed our sexuality as a gender for the most part, exploring for ourselves sexual preferences on position, frequency, and circumstance. We’ve taken lessons in hand jobs and oral, we’ve shaved or waxed our cunts, and fulfilled their lesbian fantasies.
So ladies, I say take it up your ass if you want to, but don’t let him fob you off with reasons why. It’s about power – so ask for a fair exchange and strap one on first.
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Elizabeth Rose is our boarding school educated English rose by day and unabashed slut by night. She takes pride in her “work” and wishes to share her feminist rantings and lessons in bedroom etiquette with the wider world.
Elizabeth Rose is our boarding school educated English rose by day and unabashed slut by night. She takes pride in her “work” and wishes to share her feminist rantings and lessons in bedroom etiquette with the wider world.
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11 Comments for The Anal Truth
Chuck
Wow. This is deep. And although i have never tried anal, I am not oppose to exploring. You are right, its not that damn exotic and truth be told, its kinda gross. I can lick all up in and around all day (after a shower of course), but to do that is going to the next level.
In order to get there, you are going to need to find someone first. It’s wintertime and ladies, I have the perfect solution for those lonely nights:
5 Things Women need to find their Winter boo.
http://www.chuckcity.vox.com
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Skye Blue
@ Peter – LMAO! Are you accusing my friend Elizabeth Rose of offering up her ‘backdoor’ to obtain gifts and other goodies (with a price tag attached) – much like a common prostitute?
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Skye Blue
@ Chuck – re ‘I can lick all up in and around all day (after a shower of course)’ – bless you and all the men out there like you!!
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Elizabeth Rose
I’m taking the fifth, as I’m sure there are still some men out there who want to convince me I enjoy it…
(tbh I like to go Dutch and don’t accept presents off casual lovers – I just like the lengths of sexual favours that can be gained in the process. I once made a flanker wear my underwear for a night out dancing. He was so chaffed he couldn’t even claim the promised key to my bottom that night)
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peter
Elizabeth I hope you did not think I was calling you a whore, a slapper maybe but not a whore but you were talking about all the little extras you get while having them woo you into the deed. I think Skye is just trying to shit stir so to speak afterall she was the one who was mistaken for offering sexual favours for cash.
As for me I am not sure about the whole thing, it does intrigue me and am not sure what my reaction would be to the challenge of you can if I can. I would like to think that I would but am not sure.
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Elizabeth Rose
Oh Peter I would never hold something like that against you!
I’m still searching for that special guy who’ll let me peg him…
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peter
Elizabeth, would be interested to hear what Fynn’s reaction is to you pulling out the trusted rabbit mid flow.
Perhaps with Burns nite approaching it is time for the wee timerous beastie to make an appearance (ok that was a mouse but I am sure you have something smaller than a rabbit you coudl try)
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Skye Blue
@ Peter – wow drawing cards eh, Peter?
In any case, I’ll ignore your ‘accusation’ and say that yes, perhaps I am still a bit sensitive from being mistaken for a prostitute a while back.
Life is hard in the trenches people.
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max
Oh my GOD you’re RIGHT! It is soooo a power thing! I can’t believe I never realized that. You’ve officially strengthened my resolve to keep my ass virginity for as long as possible!
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Lena.FM
Oh yes, it is about power. Exclusively, I think (although I am sure it may differ for different people). It’s about a fantasy, and the sensation follows. 
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So Elizabeth, you never really made it clear, ‘do you like it up the arse or not”? is this something you do just to please your man or do you get satisfaction and pleasure out of it? Do you just do it for the extra goodies that you obtain as a result?
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