January 17, 2011

SKYE BLUE

Change always comes bearing gifts. – Price Pritchett

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Readers I have a confession to make.

Writing and working on MetAnotherFrog.com has changed my life. For the better. In more ways than I ever could’ve imagined.

How’s that you ask? Well…

It has lead to my:

Connecting with many people I would never otherwise have met: Most notably @jackfrombkln, @SimoneGrant, @SSDated, @man_shopper and @Tenacious_Ken; and more recently @Nikkib04, @hopelsingle and @ButterandHoney.

Developing impossibly close friendships with my two co-bloggers: Seriously, we’re so attached now only death or one of us hooking up with a particularly heinous SO (which would be the equivalent of death, no?), will pull this team apart.

Realizing how much I don’t know about sex, dating and relationships: You’re reading the words of a lifelong learner here, and I honestly didn’t know just how much there was to know before this little blog came to be. I’ve got a lot to learn, people; which means I’m going to be doing this blog thing for quite a while – a very, very long while.

Becoming more aware of and ready to explore my own sexual desires: What to say? There’s absolutely no way you can spend a year plus thinking, discussing and writing about sex without taking some time to reflect on how you approach it and what frontiers you’ve yet to cross. It’s virtually impossible. Really.

But most significantly, this blog that I have come to love so much…

Is teaching me to really Love and Appreciate men. For Really Real.

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Those of you who caught my guest post on NWSO last year know that I have just a little bit of baggage (only one teeny tiny bag; it’s just a change purse actually…honest) regarding love, relationships and men I’m in the process of working through. Well, what I’ve come to realize in the months that have passed since I wrote that post is that writing for this blog is helping to change my attitude towards men.  My many long discussions with Sam, Elizabeth and the host of others in my life, who happily oblige me when I’m in the mood for a long and meandering chat about: men, women, our emotional make up and everything associated with improving the quality of our relationships, have seriously opened my eyes to just how fabulous men really are.

And when I say fabulous, I don’t mean in a “Smack it up, flip it, rub it down, oh no” kinda way, because we all know that’s a given. What I’m actually referring to is just how much depth, sensitivity and real beauty there is to be found in men (contrary to what many of us have been taught to believe) – if you take the time and effort to really see it. Things we women often miss or ignore due to our socialization and bad habits.

In essence, what I’m saying is that my attitude toward men is Changing. I’m evolving (however slowly) into a woman who is more accepting of and better able to see the men in my life. It’s like the curtain of fear, anger, and mistrust that has been clouding my vision for years is being pulled back, and the small, ever growing ray of light that is shining through is allowing me to see what’s really there when I look at a man…

A human being (just like me – go figure?) with frailties, a complex emotional make up and a past that has shaped his life – for better or worse – in ways that are far too complicated to express with flippant remarks or sound bites about just how _________, _________, and ________ (insert your own series of pejorative adjectives here) men really are.

I’m finally in a place where I understand that men are so much better than that.

That they deserve so much more than that.

We all do, don’t you think?

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My name is Skye Blue and I’m overjoyed to tell you that with each passing day I’m learning how to better Love and Appreciate men.

Change. Is. Soooo. Good.

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