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Posted by: Elizabeth Rose    Tags:  , , , ,     Posted date:  February 15, 2011  |  Comment


February 15, 2011


ELIZABETH ROSE

It is by universal misunderstanding that all agree. For if, by ill luck, people understood each other, they would never agree. – Charles Baudelaire

Life, love and relationships, mostly they boil down to a few critical moments when by making a different choice you could have sent your whole world spinning in another direction. If you take a moment to reflect, how many times did you have all the information necessary when you were faced with a critical decision, a fork in the road? How many life choices did you make with only limited knowledge; or based on assumptions, misunderstandings or miscommunications?

This is the biggest downside of so many relationships – they are all based on half truths and conjecture. Even when a couple tries to have those deep and meaningful discussions, where they both open their hearts (and their top drawer of fetishes) they aren’t necessarily hearing the same things. The effect of upbringing, culture and gender can result in all types of relationship blunders.

For example:

When he says, “I’ll go if you really want to.”

He means, “I’d rather gouge out my eyes than see a Lord of the Dance tribute at the local pub.”

But she hears, “I would do anything for your happiness.”

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When she says, “I love spending time with you.”

What she actually means is,“I have already planned our wedding, and I know where our children will be going to school.”

And he hears, “I enjoy this casual sex as much as you do. Tonight we should try anal.”

"coup soup"Ok – that last one was a little extreme, but not that far from the truth. You see it’s important in any situation to check that the meaning you intended was that which came across. I have demonstrated this with information garnered on a recent shopping trip. A package of  “Cock Soup” could be taken to be a childish prank, but the picture of a rooster adds further explanation to the meaning (while still being an hilarious addition to my weekly shop).

So, if  you want to him to take down his online profile – TELL HIM. Clearly, unmistakably, and without room for error, doubt or wiggle room.

Likewise, if you’re checking with your leading lady to see if you can attempt some bum fun, don’t wander around the subject asking to try “something new” or “unconventional” – because it’s not going to go well later when you try for a surprise re-direct!


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Elizabeth Rose is our boarding school educated English rose by day and unabashed slut by night. She takes pride in her “work” and wishes to share her feminist rantings and lessons in bedroom etiquette with the wider world.



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Nikki B

Amen.

In really intense conversations, it also helps to repeat what you are hearing back to the other person, e.g. “What I hear you saying is…” This lets them know your understanding AND validates their feelings/thoughts all in one fell swoop. Simple things, but make for better communicators. And communication is key in all relationships.
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