April 26, 2012
On Monday evening I had the pleasure of having a dinner meeting with Ms. Sophie Delancey, my fave switch. As we are wont to do, after a quick catch up on the goings on in our lives, the conversation turned to sex – specifically kink, as I have many questions and Sophie has many answers . And after brief forays into being a top or a bottom, the potential joys of fisting and a host of other things, we eventually arrived at cuckolding.
Now as much as the popularity and acceptance of cuckolding seems to be increasing (as evidenced by Sam’s most recent un-sexcapade), it is still a subject I have very little experience with. So, soon after it came up, I began to wonder – apparently out loud – beyond the obvious entertainment a new cock in the boudoir would offer (because everyone knows a new cock makes any good time even better, right?), what the box office draw to such an activity would be? Sophie quickly offered up an answer:
A woman dominating her man.
Well, ladies and gentleman, I had never even considered that angle, so the whole notion of cuckolding was instantly turned on its head for me. All of a sudden that shit was intriguing as hell (not in an “OMG. I want to try it now. Like right now” kind of way, but more in a “Go on with your bad self girl” way) and I decided I needed to learn more about it – STAT. And since we’re still in the middle of our Swinging Good Times month I can indulge my curiosity, and with any luck some of yours too. So…
Today, I’m going to share all that I was able to dig up on cuckolding on the internet. FYI: Most of the links below are NSFW. Okay, you’ve been warned. Here we go…
So what exactly is a cuckold anyway?
Well, according to the good and horny folks over at the Swinger Social Network, a cuckold is:
An old English (1250 CE) term referring to a husband whose wife cheats, but the term has evolved in modern usage within the swinger Lifestyle to very broadly suggest a husband whose wife has sex without his direct participation. In some instances it means a husband (frequently clothed) who watches his wife engage in sex with other(s), or is forced to watch without any sexual release inciting an evolutionary sperm-competition response in the male.
I also found this much less charitable definition on urban dictionary:
A sexually inadequate husband who accepts his wife’s pussy is her solely property and she alone decides which men she will fuck, even if it means denying her husband. His only access to her pussy is to clean it of the ejaculate of males she chooses to fuck.
Doug has the penis of a young boy and has never given his wife Jill an orgasm. His choice was divorce or be a cuckold. He is now a fully submissive cuckold to Jill.
And, as wikipedia further explains;
Among fetishists the pose of reluctance—the victimization of the cuckold—is a major element of the kink…In the fetish cuckolding subculture, the female takes on the role of being sexually dominant, while the man takes on a submissive role. The man usually only becomes involved with the woman or her lover when she permits it—sometimes remaining altogether celibate.
This fetish can be completely hetero-sexual in which the husband does not participate or only participates with his wife, as well as (but more rarely) bi-sexual, in which the husband participates with everyone, or makes contact with the other man’s semen.
What Every Good Cuckold Needs
See!?!? EVERYBODY really is doing it.
To get the party started any cuckold worth his salt needs two things:
A Hotwife (or the less popular term Cuckoldress)- a female spouse that enjoys having sex outside the marriage with the full knowledge and support of her husband. Not to be confused with swinger wives that are simply attractive, i.e. hot.
A Bull – a man, single or part of a couple, who is looking just for casual sex with a hotwife. It is a somewhat pejorative term, but men that are labeled “Bulls” are often considered well endowed**. Of course, as one would expect a bull is chosen to meet the hotwife’s specifications, and often it is left up to the cuckold to find her suitable partners.
And if he’s so serious about his submission game that he chooses to play with a FemDom, he’ll also need an iron clad Cuckold Contract. (No, this is not a game.)
Cuckolding: Pleasure for A Hotwife, Her Bull and Her “Sissy” Hubby
As this all started with me wondering about the reasons why people really enjoy cuckolding, I thought I should provide you all with some insight from people living the Lifestyle. So, here are the testimonies of one very happy cuckoldress , an even happier “cucked sissy” and some pretty disturbing commentary (but maybe that’s just my opinion) from a bull committed to his “work” (apologies for the short unreadable bits – it was the only bull testimony I could find.)
Thinking About Getting in On The Cuckolding Fun?
For those of you considering joined the Lifestyle and partaking in some cuckolding of your own, here are so tips from those who have gone before you.
If you’re a wannabe cuckold with a reluctant female partner read this (and if you think you’re destined to be the hottest hotwife ever, take a gander at this.
Once you and your mate are in agreement about dabbling in some hot cuckold action, it’s time – for the hotwife (of course) – to make another decision. Will she make him watch or wait? Oh, decisions, decisions.
Now, it’s time to bring in the bulls! To do that you can hit a local swinger joint together or the hotwife can head out on the town to pick up on her own. But if your version of Team Cuckold wants to pull in as much ‘talent’ as you can, why not post an ad online? Here are a few examples of good ads, from couples and bulls alike, to help you get the party started…quickly.
After the cuckolding is in full swing (no pun intended) to keep everyone in the arrangement happy and satisfied, you’ll need to work at keeping your three way connection positive. So here are some pointers on how to manage the dynamics of your party of three for maximum enjoyment.
To Cuck or Not To Cuck: A Question We All Face?
Just one more link before I go. According the “those in the know” based on our biology, cuckolding is rated E for EVERYONE! True story. Who knew?
**There is a whole race angle to this that makes Black men (surprise, surprise) very popular with the cuckolding set, but I didn’t have the time (or mental fortitude) to unearth commentary on this while researching yesterday.