August 14, 2012
Over the past couple of years or so we’ve had the distinct pleasure of making the acquaintance of many unique and interesting bloggers. Very few, if any, as unique as our girl over at Something She Dated. And guess what? She graciously agreed to be our victim in this week’s installment of the Quickie.
If someone decided to make a film based solely on your sex and dating life, what track would you choose for your theme song?
Prince…Little Red Corvette (Baby, you’re much too fast)
What’s the one thing you now know about sex, dating and relationships that you wish someone had told you when you were a kid?
Don’t fake it. Ever. Because once you do it once, it becomes so easy to continue doing so. It’ll become like a habit. A horrible habit, that helps absolutely no one. And it’ll make it harder and harder each successive time (even if it’s with different guys) to ask for what you want, to get what you need, to make sure you get yours too. And that should always be a given. The power of sex should come just as much from the pleasure you receive as the pleasure you give.
What is the first thing you would do if you woke up one morning and found you were the opposite sex? And what would worry you most about dating/being intimate about the gender you are now once you made the switch?
This is going to make me sound like a dick…but uh…try to fuck everything in sight? (assuming all the necessary desires came with the gender switch). In all honesty, I’m not sure I would have any worries. I would treat girls with respect, and honesty. I would be upfront about what I had to offer, what I was available for, what my priorities were and then I would give them the bang(s) of their lives (I’m such a romatic, no?). Btw…I’m assuming in this scenario that I turn into a super hot dude…so uh…not sure what the plan would be if I was hideous or something. Rough.
What’s the sexiest pick up line you’ve ever heard? How did you respond?
“You’re writing is beyond amazing.” I had sex with him immediately. I’ll let you guys decide whether or not you think this is true.
When it comes to monogamy, on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being “I’m wide open” and 10 being “I’m not just closed, my shit is on lock” where do you fall?
Hmmm…this one is really tough for me to answer without adding a little context. See, when it comes to monogamy, I’m assuming it’s in reference to a relationship, a committed relationship, in which case “I’m not just closed, my shit is on lock”. That being said, am I currently interested in a relationship? Not really. Essentially “I’m wide open”. However, there’s a third possibility as well. If I was dating someone (see how I say that all covert like…’If’ I was dating someone…as to not give away the fact that I’m dating someone)…and he was like…let’s only fuck each other…well honestly I’d probably say yes. I mean, it’s not a lifetime committment. It’s not even a lengthy committment. It would work…until it didn’t. And I’m not opposed to short relationships, bouts of committment, moments of monogamy, if you will. So…uh…was that clear?
You’re on your death bed and the grim reaper takes pity on you, offering you a choice between spending 24 hours having the BEST sex of your life OR 365 more totally sexless (not even a dry hump!) and masturbation free days to live here on planet earth. Which would you choose?
You would probably think that I would choose the sex given my love for it. But honestly, I would choose the sexless 365 days without a second thought. Boys are boys and sex is sex but family…friends…all the things I have left to say…all the ways I want to affect the world…all the moments I haven’t yet had…those would be at the forefront of my mind. There are so many things I haven’t yet written.
Is the intersection of sex and technology (i.e. internet dating, social media, smartphones) more of a help or hindrance to the dating scene?
To be honest, I grew up with internet dating…I’m not even sure I’ve ever dated anyone I didn’t meet online (though hooking up etc. is an entirely different story)…so for me though internet dating is basically the norm. As for social media…again…this isn’t a new fad for me. I was meeting boys on blackplanet.com long before myspace was even a thing lol. However, as a sex and dating blogger, social media can be problematic for me (mainly because it adds a level of ‘covert’ that I have to adhere to in order not to give myself away…whether it be not revealing my blog to a boy I’ve got on Facebook…or not revealing all my cards/feelings/thoughts to a boy on Twitter).
What is your least favourite sexual position and why?
I know this will make me unpopular with the boys…but I fucking hate being on top. I’m a big gal…who likes to be dominated…so when you put those two together being on top is literally the least exciting, the least fun, the least likely to get my mojo working. Unless he doesn’t mind me slapping him around a bit with my tits…sometimes that’s pretty fucking hilarious…but not really sexy…but fun lol.
What’s the one thing in your “goody drawer” that you absolutely can’t live without?
Real talk. Vibrator. The best sex for me is with a boy AND a vibe. That way I get to cum while he’s inside me, otherwise…it’s likely not going to happen that way (though it still better fucking happen!)