Science recently found that love truly is blind.
According to research conducted by the Wellcome Department of Imaging Neuroscience at the University College London, when both men and women are caught up in the initial passionate phase of falling in love, overlapping activity throughout various parts of the human brain causes them to ignore negative emotions as it simultaneously impairs their ability to make solid social judgments about their new love interest.
In other words, no matter how much relationship advice you’ve memorized by heart, your brain’s chemistry is wired to make you throw it out the window and go gaga for that new guy or girl.
To improve your self-confidence and help you build healthy, sustainable long-term relationships, it’s crucial to remember that your typical good judgment is impaired during the early and exciting stages of dating and getting to know someone new.
In order to do that, it’s helpful to keep some helpful hints on hand and glance back at them from time to time. Here are five seriously important pieces of relationship advice both men and women ignore way too often when they’re caught up in the chemical rush that comes along with falling in love.
1. Take it slow and avoid making major decisions too early.
Beginning with our earliest experiences as infants, bonding with others occurs over time and not overnight. Parents learn about their children by attuning to their inner world and responding appropriately. If a parent tries forcing their own agenda or attempts to rush the bond, an insecure attachment forms, setting a stage for instability and relationship problems throughout the child’s life. Likewise, in order to create secure self-love, we need to be slow and gentle with ourselves. By learning to be slow and patient with ourselves, we learn to be slow and patient as we form a romantic relationship.
Making any type of major commitment, including marriage, cohabitation, and a having a baby, when you’re still in the early stages of a relationship is unwise. You simply cannot rely on your own judgment about such serious decisions when that intoxicating mix of hormones is running through your body. Instead, you must play the role of a sober parent setting boundaries for their immature child (i.e., you).
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