Review & Giveaway! The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys
By Violet Blue
Foreword by Charlie Glickman PhD
$14.95, Trade Paper
168 pages, 5½” x 8″
ISBN: 978-1-57344-972-4

The Good:
• Informative for beginners
• Good for couples
• Easy to read
• Lots of helpful tips

The Bad:
• Boring read for the more experienced sex toy user.

Overall Rating:

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys will go over all the basics, and even a little more than that. It’s informative, witty, and easy to read. This is a book that will help couples communicate about the topic of sex toys, and hopefully it will help provoke conversation between couples.

For me, this is a book that I would skip around in, and only read the chapters that interest me or will benefit me the most. If you and you partner have both never used a sex toy before, or if you’re trying to convince a partner to use sex toys, this would be a perfect book for you to read from cover to cover. It will tell you everything you need to know about using sex toys, finding the right toy for you, using safe materials, and other important information that I wish I would have known when i was first starting to explore using sex toys myself.

Chapter One – Basic Models, and Care and Feeding Your Toys

  • The first chapter is very basic. It briefly starts to tell you how far sex toys have come over the last 20 years, and how there are much safer options to choose from these days. Then it starts to cover a lot of the basics; the different toys there are to choose from, what they do, how to work them, and how to keep them clean. You’ll also learn important things like using safe materials and avoiding phthalates.

Chapter Two – First Time Toys and Gifts

  • This is a great chapter for someone who is looking for the best way to initiate using sex toys with their partner. It goes over the different kinds of toys you can choose from, and goes over a lot of the basics on what they will do for you and your partner.  It also gives you tips on how to initiate giving sex toys as a gift, and tips on choosing the right one.

Chapter Three – Come Together

  • This is just another good introduction chapter for couples that are just starting out. Again, it coves introducing sex toys, except this time, in the heat of the moment. This chapter can really help to make things not as awkward the first time.

Chapter Four – Kinky Toys for Two

  • Chapter 4 does a great job at introducing/explaining toys that are more on the kinky side of play. It gives you some helpful tips on what not to buy and where to shop for quality toys. This chapter is going to only be interesting and helpful for those who are inexperienced in BDSM but want to explore using kinky toys in the bedroom for the very first time.

Chapter Five – Strap-Ons and Bend Over Boyfriend

  • If you’ve ever wanted to try switching roles/Pegging, this chapter is the one for you. It will go over the different varieties of strap-ons and dildos, and how to find one that fits and feels just right. It also includes a lot of tips on fun things you can do with your new dick. I found this chapter to be a lot of fun to read.

Chapter Six – Teledildonic Toys: Online Sex for Two

  • Teledildonic  is also known as cyberdildonics , which are electronic sex toys that can be controlled by a computer in order to reach orgasm. In this chapter you’ll learn about USB sex toys, and how the internet is a whole new world of sex. It will also tell you about webcams, and give you some sexy webcam tips. If you’re someone who is new and interested in the world of webcam, this is a good chapter for you to read.

Chapter Seven – Sex Machines

  • Sex machines have always interested me, so I was really interested in reading this chapter. If you’re not sure what a sex machine is, this chapter will explain to you exactly what it is. It will also tell you all the ways to enjoy a sex machine, and also the best places to purchase one. Sex machines are really expensive, so do your research before you ever buy one.

Chapter Eight – Exotic Sex Toy

  • In chapter 8 you’ll read about the more exotic sex toys you can find on the market, such as glass, metal, stone, etc. You’ll also read about some cool animal shaped/exotic dildos that are made.

Chapter Nine – Sex Furniture

  • This chapter introduced me to a lot of sex furniture I’ve never heard of or seen before. It also briefly goes into some BDSM accessories, such as furniture like items like bondage beds. There are a lot of fun items in this chapter and they were definitely worth reading, in my opinion.

Chapter Ten – Shop Smart and Recommend Resources

  • You’re going to find helpful resources/guides to things like shopping online, safe sex, and other reading recommendations. This is definitely a chapter I see myself looking back on in the future.

Overall this was a very easy read. It’s definitely a book for someone new to the world of sex toys. I loved all the tips that this book gives you. You will find that in a lot of the chapters there is a small section that gives you tips that are actually worth reading. That is probably one of my favorite things about this book, I don’t consider myself to be all that experienced, so this was a good read for me. I also have a lot of friends that I could recommend this book to.

If you’re interested in purchasing a copy of  The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys, you can do so by clicking on the banner below.

This book was provided free of charge and sponsored by Cleis Press in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.


Book Description: 

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys
By Violet Blue

Feeling adventurous? In this witty and well-informed guide, bestselling author and chief sex education pundit Violet Blue explains how to choose and use sex toys to play and explore together—and have mind-blowing sex. Also featuring new content by the renowned Dr. Charlie Glickman, The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys helps couples redefine alone time. Violet offers tips on creative usage and ideas for introducing sex toys to a relationship for sex toy novices and practiced enthusiasts alike.
Violet’s Bio:
Violet Blue (, @violetblue) is the best-selling author of numerous sex-instruction books, including The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio. She also writes about erotica, pornography, and sexual pleasure and health for magazines such as O: The Oprah Magazine, Newsweek, Cosmopolitan, Esquire, Glamour, Maxim, Marie Claire, Men’s Health, Penthouse, Redbook, and more. She lives in San Francisco.


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Review — Shades of Grey Ben-Wa Balls

Shades of Grey Ben-Wa Balls

 The Good:
• Discreet
• Easy to clean
•Travel friendly

The Bad:
• Can barely feel them inside me
• Small & not very easy to remove
• For the more experienced user

Overall Rating:

This was my very first time using Ben-Wa Balls, and I will start off by saying that this particular pair is probably not the ideal choice for those using a kegel balls for the first time. I would recommend something that is larger, connected, and has some kind of retrieval cord. I’m slowly getting the hang of these Ben-Wa Balls.

Kegel balls are very beneficial to women. The purpose of Ben-Wa Balls is to help strengthen and tighten the kegel muscles. As far as pleasure goes, these have yet to give me any kind of pleasurable sensation during use.

Inserting the Ben-Wa Balls was very easy for me. My kegel muscles are fairly strong already, so I was able to use my muscles to keep them inside of me. When I put both balls in at the same time, I was having a hard time keeping them in place. They were so small that I could barely feel them. I felt them mostly when they were about to fall out. Since I had a hard time using both of them at the same time, I decided to just try one ball. This was a lot easier for me. I was able to contract my kegel muscle around the one ball, and keep it in place. As for now, I’m continuing to use the one ball and hoping to be able to eventually use both balls at the same time. I haven’t had these very long, and I just need some time to get used to them. There is no retrieval cord to remove these balls, so you do have to fish them out on your own. You’ll find what works best for you best the more you use them.

The Shades of Grey Ben-Wa Balls have a decent amount of weight to them. It doesn’t come included with anything saying ho much they weigh, but after doing some research online and comparing them to other balls just like them, I would say that they weigh 0.2 lb. I try and use my kegel balls 3 times a day for about 10-15 minutes at a time. Afterwards, I can feel the workout that my kegel muscles got.


The Shades of Grey Ben-Wa Balls are very small in size. They are 2 1/2 inches in circumference , and no bigger than a quarter.  These small balls are definitely for those who are experienced with using kegel balls. I would recommend that first time users go with a kegel ball that is bigger and easier to contract your muscles around.


These balls are made of a gold metal. They’re obviously not real gold but most likely plated gold. I’ve yet to notice any kind of fading or chipping, but it’s something that could possibly happen. Like I said before, I haven’t had these very long. If you’re someone who is allergic to metals, these Ben-Wa Balls aren’t going to work for you. Personally, I haven’t experienced any reactions to the metal material. What I enjoy most about the material is that it’s cool to the touch, but it retains my body heat almost as soon as I insert them.

Keeping Them Clean:

Cleaning the Shades of Grey Ben-Wa Balls is a simple process.Their are a number of way you can clean them. Metal can be cleaned with soap and water, boiled on the stove, bleached with a 10% bleach and water solution, or put through the dishwasher. It’s also safe to use with any kind of lubricant.


Keeping Them Safe / Packaging:

The Shades of Grey Ben-Wa Balls come packaged in a cardboard box, and they’re housed inside of a plastic clam-shell type of packaging. It doesn’t come with a pouch to store them inside, but I would definitely recommend storing them inside some kind of pouch. If you don’t have a pouch to store them inside of, you can just keep them in the clam-shell packaging.


 If you’re interested in purchasing a set of the Shades of Grey Ben-Wa Balls, you can pick up a pair from NiteTimeToys by clicking on the banner below. You can also use the code ‘SUNKISSED’ at checkout for 10% off of your order.

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Review — Wham Bam Paddle by Tantus

Wham Bam Paddle by Tantus


The Good:
•Great for impact play
•High quality silicone
•Easy to clean

The Bad:
•Too flexible

Overall Rating:

This is my very first paddle and while I can’t quite handle it at it’s highest potential, I’m so happy that I am a new owner of this lovely paddle. I look forward to being able to handle all this paddle has to offer in the future. If you’re someone who is experienced when it comes to impact play, and you’re looking for something that gives you a nice sting and some red marks, this Wham Bam Paddle by Tantus is hands down a purchase you will not regret. Not only will this paddle by Tantus provide a quality smack, but it’s also a paddle that will last you lifetime if you care for it properly.




Design & Size:

The Wham Bam Paddle is a total length of 15 inches, and it’s 2 inches wide. The paddle itself is 1/4 of an inch thick, while the handle is 1/2 of an inch thick.

The paddle is a long, rectangular shape, and the handle has a curve to it, that way it’s comfortable to hold in your hand. This paddle should fit comfortably in small and larger hands.






Material / Craftsmanship:

This is one VERY well made paddle! You will never have to worry about this paddle breaking in half or falling apart mid spank. It’s made of Tantus’ unique blend of 100% ultra-premium silicone. It’s absolutely non-porous, hypoallergenic, phthalate free, and non-toxic. It’s also free of any unpleasant smells.

The Wham Bam Paddle is a VERY flexible paddle. It’s most flexible in the center of the paddle, and it can almost fold completely in half. I believe that the silicone material and the flimsiness of this paddle is what delivers such a nice sting. Because this paddle is so flexible, it can be difficult to deliver the perfect hit.



The hits from this paddle can really hurt, depending on the amount of force you put behind it. More than anything, this paddle will create a stinging sensation that can be very fun! The hits from this paddle hurt more than any paddle I have ever tried, although I’ve never used a paddle quite like this. I would definitely recommend this for more serious BDSM users who want a quality paddle that delivers one hell of a sting! If you’re a beginner, I suggest trying something that is not as intense as the Wham Bam Paddle.


Keeping It Clean:

If you take good care of your paddle, it can last you a lifetime. You’ll be glad to know that there are many ways to clean this product, and they’re all very simple. You can bleach it, boil it, run it through the dishwasher, or just plain old soap and water. I prefer the dishwasher, it’s a lot easier to fit it inside of a dishwasher rather than a pot.



I would like to thank Tantus for the chance to review the Wam Bam Paddle. You can purchase this product on the Tantus website by clicking on the banner that I have provided below.


This product was provided free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

Review — We-Vibe Touch

We-Vibe Touch


The Good:
• Strong Vibrations
• High quality silicone
• Rechargeable
• Waterproof
• Quiet

The Bad:
• Silicone has a drag
• Silicone is a lint magnet
• Magnetic charger is very touchy

Overall Rating:
sun4Intensity Level:   4/5     Noise Level:   1/5

I’ve loved every We-Vibe toy I have ever owned, so when I got the chance to review the We-Vibe Touch, I was ecstatic. I was hoping the Touch would be the silicone version of the Salsa and Tango, and it most definitely loved up to my expectations.

If you want a high quality, rechargeable clitoral vibrator that is powerful, maneuverable, waterproof, travel friendly, extremely quiet, and made of a high quality silicone, the We-Vibe Touch is a vibrator you want to consider purchasing. Whether you’re looking for something to use by yourself or with a partner, the We-Vibe Touch has what it takes to please users of all kinds. Please note that the Touch is only to be used for external stimulation. Do not insert the Touch in any way.


The charge time for the Touch is 90 minutes. I highly recommend charging your toy however long the manufacturer suggests to charge it. After 90 minutes of charging, you get a good 120 minutes of play time with your toy.

We-Vibe does their charging magnetically. There is a charging base that will magnetically attaches to the bottom of the toy. Sometimes I have a hard time getting a good connection. The charging can be very touchy but you will know it’s charging when the small light glows an orange color.


The Touch is made of a smooth, non-porous, hypoallergenic, medical grade silicone that is free of phthalates and 100% body safe. It’s odorless, tasteless, and there was nothing that led me to believe that this toy was not made of any other material than 100% silicone.

Even though the silicone is smooth, there’s a very noticeable drag. You might find that you have to add a little bit of lubricant to get a wet and slippery glide going on. Another con about the silicone material is that it easily collects lint and hair, so make sure you rinse it off before every use.



The We-Vibe Touch is a small sized vibrator. It is 4 inches in length and just under 2 inches wide. The shape of the Touch is somewhat unique, it’s not the shape of your average clitoral vibrator. The shape of the Touch reminds me of the shape of a tongue. The tip is slightly tapered and the top portion is more narrow, while the base is more round. There’s a slight curve to the body of the toy, making it a very comfortable toy to maneuver/hold in the palm of your hand. It’s also the perfect size vibrator to use during partner play, since it is less likely to get the way.




I was really expecting strong vibrations from the Touch and that’s exactly what I got. Even though the vibrations aren’t as strong as my Salsa or Tango, it’s still a great quality vibration that is strong, deep, and rumbly. The silicone material slightly muffles the vibrations, which is the only reason that they don’t feel as strong as the Salsa or Tango. There is hardly any buzz to this toy, which I personally love. Even though the vibrations are strong, you can’t feel them in your fingers, so it won’t cause any kind of numbing to your fingers after a long period of time. Also, if you’re someone who applies a lot of pressure, like I do, you’ll be happy to know that the strength of the vibrations will not weaken when applying pressure.

On the bottom of the Touch there is a button that powers your toy on and off and scrolls through the different vibration modes. To turn it on you press the button one time, to change through the modes you keep pressing the button, and when you’re ready to turn it off, hold the button down for at least 2 seconds.

The We-Vibe Touch has 8 different vibration modes. The first 4 vibration modes are steady vibrations that go from low to high. The other 4 modes are pattern vibrations. I include a list of vibration patterns that can be found on the We-Vibe website.

  1. LOW  3000 rpm VIBE
  2. MEDIUM  3600 rpm VIBE
  3. HIGH  4200 rpm VIBE
  4. ULTRA  4800 rpm VIBE
  5.   TEASE
  6.   WAVE
  7.   PULSE
  8.   CHA CHA

Keeping It Clean:

Being that the Touch is 100% waterproof, it means that you can play with it the shower, bath, pool, jacuzzi, etc. Best of all, it means that cleaning it is going to be a simple process. Simple wash your Touch with a mild soap and warm water or your choice of toy cleaner. Whatever you do, make sure that you don’t boil or put your toy in the dishwasher.


Keeping It Safe:

The Touch comes included with a white satin, drawstring pouch to store your toy and charger inside of, so there’s no need to keep the box unless you prefer to. There is also a pamphlet included that gives you warranty and charging information. Should you happen to get a defective product, We-Vibe does offer a 1 year warranty. Be sure to check out the We-Vibe website for information on returning a product.



The Touch comes packaged in a classy looking box, which is also the same exact box that the Tango and Salsa come in (for those of you who own one). It may seem a little confusing at first but the best way to open the box is by opening it from the bottom.


 If you’re interested in purchasing a We-Vibe Touch, you can do so by visiting the We-Vibe website or by clicking on the banner I provided below.

This product was provided free of charge by We-Vibe in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.


ZonePerfect® Greek Yogurt Bars

ZonePerfect® Greek Yogurt Bars

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Thanks to Influenster, I recently received the GoodVoxBox and was able to try a ZonePerfect ZonePerfect Raspberry Greek Yogurt Bar. This bar has 190 calories, 3 grams of fiber, 8 grams of fat, 14 grams of sugar, 12 grams of protein, and is made with Greek yogurt. The bar was very filling, and it makes for a quick and easy breakfast, snack, or dessert. The raspberry taste stands out a lot. Overall, I found this bar to be the perfect snack, it’s very tasty and full of protein.

The ingredient list is: Soy Protein Nuggets (Soy Protein Isolate, Tapioca Starch, Salt), Corn Syrup, Greek Yogurt Flavored Coating (Sugar, Fractionated Palm Kernel Oil, Greek Yogurt Powder [Cultured With Nonfat Milk, Milk Protein Concentrate], Nonfat Milk, Soy Lecithin, Natural Flavors, Lactic Acid, Citric Acid), Soy Protein Nuggets (Soy Protein Isolate, Rice Flour, Malt Extract, Salt), Gum Acacia, Soy Protein Isolate, High Oleic Safflower Oil and/or High Oleic Sunflower Oil, Natural Flavor, Blueberry Paste (Fruit [Blueberry Puree, Concentrated Apple Puree, Concentrated Plum Puree, Concentrated Pear Puree], Sugar, Invert Sugar, Glycerine, Wheat Fiber, Pectin, Malic Acid, Natural Flavor, Calcium Lactate), Oligofructose, Raspberry Flakes (Raspberry, Maltodextrin, Corn Starch, Lecithin), Fructose Syrup. Less than 2% of the Following: Glycerine, Calcium Phosphate, and Citric Acid.

Review — Envy One by Jopen

The Good:
• Rechargeable
• Silicone
• Waterproof
• Decent vibrations

The Bad:
• Gets hot
• Issues with light indicator
• Expensive

Overall Rating:
Intensity Level: 4/5       Noise Level: 2/5

Like most girls, I’m a girl who is obsessed with clit vibes. I feel like you can never have too many, and  I’m always looking for the best one out there. Or at least something that’s better than what I already consider to be the best clit vibe out there. When I first saw the Envy line, I was super excited to see they had a small version. It wasn’t as small as I was expecting it to be, and I actually would have preferred something a bit smaller. I’ve never owned a Jopen product before, so I had high hopes for this One. I’m always reading great things about their power and silicone material, and with such a high price tag, I would expect nothing less than great.


The entire Envy line by Jopen is made of silicone; an odorless, non-porous, and hypoallergenic material. If your toy has a faint smell to it upon arrival, it’s due to the packaging it comes in. Mine had a very faint smell to it but it went away completely once I washed it. The silicone material is smooth but it’s not buttery smooth like some of my other silicone toys (that I love). This silicone has a small drag to it, enough so that I like to add a small amount of water-based lubricant. Make sure that you only use this toy with a water-based lubricant, or a high quality silicone lubricant that you know won’t react to the material. I strongly suggest spot testing. There is also a seam along the sides of the toy but they can’t be felt or noticed during use, so it’s no big deal. It does have the tendency to collect lint, but I’ve had toys that are way worse, so this one isn’t so bad.


The Envy One comes with a USB charger. You can either charge it on your computer or you can use a USB charging adapter that plugs in the wall. The charging port is located at the bottom of the toy, and it has the same kind of plug as a pair of headphones/ear buds, so it’s very easy to figure out.

The Envy One takes 2.5 hours to come to a complete charge. With a complete charge, you’re supposed to get 4.5 hours of play time on low speed, and 2 hours of play time on high speed. I can say that the batter did last two hours on the highest setting, but I did notice it start to weaken as time went by.

My charging process did not go very smooth. When I plugged-in the Envy One, a red light came on but when I looked over at it about 5 minutes later, the toy was not lit up all. I unplugged it and then plugged it back in and the light came back on again. Again, I looked over at it and the light turned off but I just let sit on the charger for a couple hours anyway. After a couple of hours passed, my toy had appeared to be fully charged. I was pretty annoyed by the light issue. It had me wondering if it was even charging, and also unsure of when it was done charging.


The Envy One is a small sized vibrator with a tapered tip that is good for delivering pin-pointed vibrations. Even though it’s a small vibrator, I still think it’s a bit on the bulky side. I personally wish it was a tad slimmer and shorter. It resembles the very popular We-Vibe Salsa, except the Envy is longer, wider, and covered in silicone.

The Envy One measures in at 4.5 inches long and 1.25 inches in diameter. It’s big enough that you could use it as a teaser to tease the vaginal opening, and also for some shallow insertion but the size is best for clitoral and external stimulation.


The Envy One comes programmed with 7 functions, and you adjust the speeds in increments from low to high. There are two buttons on the bottom of the toy that controls everything.  One of the buttons has the letter F on it. That button scrolls through the 7 different vibration patterns. The other button powers the toy on and off and increases the vibration intensity. It only takes one press of the blank button to turn the toy off, so it’s very easy to accidentally turn it off during use. On the plus side, when you turn it back on it takes you right back to where you left off. Honestly, it took me a little bit to figure out how to work this thing. It can be a little tricky at first.


The vibrations on this toy are strong, but they don’t really travel that well through the silicone. I would say that the silicone lowers the actual potential that this toy has. The vibrations are the strongest and most rumbly right after charging it. They weaken pretty quickly, and they also weaken when applying pressure. I’m someone who applies a lot of pressure, so that was definitely an issue for me.

The vibrations can be felt through the entire toy but they’re strongest at the tip. After about 20 minutes the vibrations did start to become slightly finger numbing. Again, I think that could have something to do with the way the silicone distributes the vibrations. I was very impressed with the noise level. You can hear a slight rattle when it’s on but I doubt anybody in a separate room would hear it.

Keeping It Safe / Packaging:

The Envy One comes packaged in a really nice box that is perfect for storing your toy inside of, but I was really surprised that a storage pouch wasn’t included. Even if the box is good for storing your toy at home, it’s nice to have a pouch for it in case you want to travel with it. The Envy One is definitely travel friendly, so I would recommend finding a pouch to store it in if you take it traveling with you. The packaging comes with some information on the back, and there is also a small pamphlet included inside the box.

Keeping It Clean:

The Envy One is 100% waterproof and very easy to clean. You’re not able to boil it or run it through the dishwasher, so you have to wash it in warm water with a mild soap or a toy cleaner of your choice.

My Experience:

Like I said before, I had high hopes for my Envy One. Unfortunately it wasn’t all I was expecting it to be. The first problem I had was the charging issue. Even though the toy seems to charge perfectly fine, the light indicator is all kinds of jacked-up. My second issue was how hot it started to get while I was using it. About 15-20 minutes into my playtime, I could feel the heat from the toy warming up my vagina. It doesn’t burn you or anything, but it is very noticeable and can start to feel uncomfortable. I honestly wouldn’t spend the $100 range asking price that these things are going for. My Salsa and my Tango are cheaper than that, and I like those way better.

If you’re interested in purchasing the Envy One by Jopen, you can find it on the LoveHoney Website.