Looking for a tip or two on how to tackle the dating scene? Then you’ve probably noticed the onslaught of search engine results when you Google the phrase “dating dos and don’ts.” Yikes! Over 300 million results bombard the computer screen. It seems everyone’s an expert on relationships and human behavior, or are they? Here, the advice IS coming from actual experts and in this case, six bona fide therapists!
Dating Dos Don’ts From 6 Therapists
Tips from Dr. Jamie Long, Psy.D.
1. DON’T convince yourself you only have one “type.”
DO widen your definition of a compatible mate. Open yourself to the possibility that you can fall in love with someone who doesn’t perfectly meet the criteria that you believe is your ideal or particular “type.”
2. DON’T be overly critical or judgmental.
DO approach others with curiosity, kindness, and compassion. Premature dismissals of someone are a one-way ticket to overlooking a potentially great love match.
3. DON’T come on too strong! Watch yourself for behaviors that could be constured as needy, desperate, unstable, or otherwise undesirable.
DO respect the natural progression of intimacy. Telling a potential mate how much you really, really like them adds a lot of unnecessary pressure! Instead, gradually reveal your inner thoughts, feelings, and personal story starting with light and casual then progressing to deeper, more intimate self-disclosures.
4. DON’T forget the traditional rules of dating.
DO be a gentlemen/lady. Some rules of dating have stood the test of time. Yes, we live in a modern world in which women can pay for themselves and open their own door. Still, it’s nice when the man foots the bill after a dinner date. Likewise, ladies shouldn’t try to be just one of the guys.
Tips from Dr. Kate Campbell, Ph.D., LMFT
5. DON’T be overly influenced by expectations of family and friends such as, “Does she practice the same religion? Is he the same race, or does he have the desired financial/educational status?”
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